I have been hearing it over and over again—from clients, friends, and colleagues. The weight of always being on guard is becoming unbearable. They all share accounts of how they seem to be living in a state of constant alert. The need to stay hyperaware, anticipate harm, and brace for impact has seeped into everyday life for so many people, particularly those who feel their rights, their safety, or their very existence are under threat in today's United States.
As a mother, grandmother, and professional who has dedicated her life to human rights and social justice, I have long understood that progress is not linear—that history moves forward only when people actively fight against regression. But what happens when the struggle feels unrelenting? When even the most basic rights feel precarious? When exhaustion replaces hope?
The Unseen Toll of Constant Vigilance
For many of my clients—particularly those from marginalized communities—hypervigilance is no longer just a psychological response to immediate danger. It has become a way of life, a testament to their remarkable resilience in the face of adversity.
LGBTQ+ individuals who once felt protected by evolving legal rights now worry about how shifting policies might impact their daily safety and dignity.
Immigrants and their families are living under heightened fear of separation, restriction, or loss of rights they thought were secure.
Women and reproductive rights advocates see gains they once celebrated being dismantled, leaving them to wonder what is next.
Environmental activists who work to protect our planet see policies roll back protections, undermining the future they have fought so hard to safeguard.
The constant need to be aware, to prepare, to be ready for another legal shift or social regression takes a toll on the body, on the mind, and the spirit.
A Nation in Survival Mode
I have found myself shying away from watching the news, not out of disinterest but as an act of self-preservation. The constant stream of distressing headlines, policy reversals, and rising tensions feels like an assault on the nervous system. Many of my clients have shared similar experiences—limiting their exposure to current events, not because they don't care, but because they are exhausted by the sheer need to stay on guard every moment of the day.
In my coaching work, I often use Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs to help clients understand how unaddressed foundational needs can prevent higher levels of fulfillment. What we are experiencing now as a society is a collective regression into survival mode.
When policies undermine safety, security, and dignity, people are forced to shift their energy away from creativity, growth, and connection and instead focus on basic survival:
Do I still belong here?
Will my rights be stripped away tomorrow?
Is my family safe?
How do I protect myself from the next attack on my dignity?
This problem is not an abstract concept. It is a daily reality for many, and the result is burnout, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion that affects every area of life.
The Cost of Hypervigilance on Well-Being
Physiologically, the body is not meant to remain in a constant state of stress. The fight-or-flight response is a survival mechanism meant for temporary danger—not a permanent state of being. Chronic stress can lead to:
Fatigue and sleep disturbances
Increased anxiety and depression
Weakened immune systems
Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
Emotional numbness or disconnection
When people live in perpetual defense mode, their ability to experience joy, relaxation, and deep human connection diminishes. The weight of vigilance suffocates the possibility of thriving.
Reclaiming Our Right to Rest and Restoration
So, where do we go from here? How do we hold the weight of responsibility—of fighting for justice, for rights, for dignity—without losing ourselves in the process?
Acknowledge that exhaustion is real. If you feel depleted, you are not alone. Recognizing the toll is the first step toward reclaiming balance, and prioritizing your well-being is not a luxury, but a powerful act of self-empowerment.
Find moments of refuge. Whether through meditation, time in nature, creative expression, or intentional rest, prioritize activities that allow you to release tension and reconnect with yourself.
Build community resilience. We are not meant to carry these burdens alone. Connect with others who share your values and create spaces where both action and healing can coexist.
Seek professional support. Therapy, coaching, and mental health care are essential tools in navigating stress and burnout. There is no shame in needing guidance.
Take sustainable action. Choose where you direct your energy wisely. Not every battle is yours to fight. Focus on meaningful, strategic engagement rather than trying to do everything at once.
Hope as a Radical Act
Rest is not a betrayal of the cause, and hope is not naivety. To persist, we must allow ourselves to breathe, and to hold onto hope as a radical act of optimism that fuels our motivation.
When I look at my grandchildren, I do not want them to inherit a world where exhaustion is the cost of being conscious. I want them to live in a world where people can thrive, not just survive, where dignity is a given, not a battle, and where fear is not the price of awareness.
Today, I remind myself—and my clients—that caring for oneself does not mean abandoning the fight. It means ensuring that we have the strength to keep going.
The world may be chaotic, but within us, we have the power to cultivate peace, find rest, and fight for a future where hypervigilance is no longer the norm but a distant memory.
Join the Conversation
Leave me a comment below and tell me what your dream is. If public discourse is too public for you, send me a note at info@soulfulsojourners.com.
And as always, be safe, dear sojourner, until we see each other again on these pages or a Complimentary 50-Minute Insight Session.
Neidy Lozada, MATP, CTTC, CSIC, is a Legacy Cultivator and Transformational Strategist who works from the framework of transformational. transpersonal, and spiritual integration coaching. She brings over twenty years of experience in transpersonal practices, coaching, and business to her work with individuals from all over the globe. Neidy founded Soulful Sojourners following her long-held dream of building a company to provide top-notch coaching services to women, men, and organizations undergoing a profound transformational process. Neidy also founded the Spirited Entrepreneurs Empowerment Network (S.E.E.N.), a program of Soulful Sojourners designed to provide a platform for women to expand their reach. She continues to serve non-profit organizations in the Bay Area through her work as a board member. She is a proud mother, grandmother, daughter, sister, and devoted caretaker of furry companions.
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